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« Reply #15 on: February 08, 2010, 07:07:38 PM » |
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Okay guys, I'll let you in on one of my claims to fame....I LOVE to be able to share this one -
My picture appears at Winterland in a stage crowd in the first Grateful Dead book, A Long Strange Trip.....
Yep, and my best friend is standing right next to me. I think the caption is 1977, Winterland and its a shot from behind the stage looking out.....Looking at me now, you'd NEVER believe it.
I am impressed.  I saw one of the last concerts that Jerry Garcia was alive for, in Phoenix .. damn can't remember what year that was. It was one of the things always on my to-do list "See a Grateful Dead concert." The little "shopping mall" out in the parking lot was impressive too. |
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« Reply #16 on: February 08, 2010, 07:18:48 PM » |
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Hi and welcome!
I am so sorry for all the losses you've endured, but I'm glad you're here.
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« Reply #17 on: February 08, 2010, 08:05:26 PM » |
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Molly....I had a great feeling about you from the very first post you wrote on my hello thread....awesome....I have this book somewhere too. What's up with deadheads and adoptees? and Beth...the "mall" aka "the Lot" is where it's at! That where the 'family gathers'   |
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« Reply #18 on: February 08, 2010, 11:11:56 PM » |
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Thanks too to the rest of you for the warm welcome.
Zoey, thanks for the hug and for your honesty and openness, and compassion too.
Alcoholic a-parents and adoption. First the adopted child must grieve the loss of the b-parents and then the emotional loss of the a-parents to addiction. Then the early death of the alcoholic a-parent… It’s like they try to fill the hole inside themselves with us, that does not work, and then the alcohol, that doesn’t work, and then their anger and rage which they turn at us, that doesn’t really work either but they can self-satisfy that its us and not them, when it’s really about themselves and their own lives/choices. I know it was never really about me. I can get my head around it, but my heart is so very much slower.
I too had a final conversation with my a-dad that was finally honest and which he received well, as yours seems to have. That memory has brought me much solace over the years; I hope the same has been true for you.
Dead Head friends, the Dead seems so appropriate as a theme for this journey. As an adoptee, I am supposed to be “grateful” for all that I have received in my a-family while the truth of me, what some call the forbidden-self of the adoptee, lay "dead" inside me. I am only now engaging, in my current therapy, the long strange trip to follow this long dead part of me. As horrifying as it has been so far breaking free from the Lies of Adopting which have kept me entombed for over half a century, I am now honestly grateful for the chance to journey to these more authentic places within myself and their echoes and reflections of the woman and man who gave me life and whose genetic heritage is a birthright no one can deny me any longer.
Thank you all for allowing me to journey among you. I am grateful for the companionship.
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« Reply #20 on: February 10, 2010, 05:30:31 PM » |
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LOL, I never made it in to the shows. Last one I went to in Buckeye Lake Ohio, I found out when we got there my friends were just gonna sell their tix and hang out in the campground across from the show, trip and do nitrous baloons. AFTER I left my bike in a garage 1/2 way there 'cause I couldn't see the car in front of me due to rain. (I was the only one on 2 wheels) I was pissed but always the partier, made lemonade from the lemons dealt. Someone had some vodka so we had Lemon Drops  Someone needed to see 1/2 the show more than I did. I lost them when I got back on my bike going home... lost em a few times at the lot too...lmao I knew a bunch of sober deadheads back then, the "wharf rats" is what they called themselves. They had AA meetings at shows, hung together for some sober support in the mass of "buzz" all around them. And I remember where I was and what I was doing when I heard Jerry died. Doing laundry at a bar/laundromat in Champagne IL, drinking a beer and playing pool. |
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« Reply #21 on: February 10, 2010, 09:24:04 PM » |
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Cherylann! I'm so sorry we hijacked your thread. And I totally understood everything you said. Yes..."grateful" "dead"....perfect really. Honey, I hope you find a lot of support here, and usually we mind our manners a bit more (well not always)....
Okay, so my husband worked for a pretty conservative company that closed down and took the entire 70+ employees to Golden Gate Park the day that Jerry died. You should have seen it, it was like a throw back to different times, or like time travelers in suits wandered amongst the tie dye. We lived right next to the park, so there was much mayhem for days.
I know the ex-girlfriend of Bob Weir. Now this is a good one, she said she was married to Jim Morrison (saw the marriage license), and she said he is not dead. There are a ton of pictures of her with him (she was a photographer). I swear on my life, this is a true story. She has reams of letters from the IRS because when he "died" he was in major debt, so IRS went after her......his wife. Saw this with my own EYES.....But the Bob Weir story is priceless....he sounds like a nice guy, but not too bright...(translate...major dead brain cells).
So, believe me if you want, but the story is friggin amazing....
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« Reply #22 on: February 13, 2010, 03:16:08 PM » |
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Molly,
Thanks. You are amazing! So looking forward to getting to know you better.
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« Reply #23 on: February 13, 2010, 03:35:06 PM » |
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Hi CherylAnn!  Well, you have quite the story! I am very sorry for your many losses, but am glad you found us. I'm a baby boomer, too.  |
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« Reply #24 on: February 13, 2010, 05:06:42 PM » |
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Cherylann! I'm so sorry we hijacked your thread. And I totally understood everything you said. Yes..."grateful" "dead"....perfect really. Honey, I hope you find a lot of support here, and usually we mind our manners a bit more (well not always)....
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« Reply #25 on: February 13, 2010, 08:23:26 PM » |
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  sorry I"m late. Hope you like it here.
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« Reply #27 on: February 16, 2010, 10:29:19 AM » |
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Welcome and I am so glad you found us. People here understand and will support you through the good and the bad. Adoption and all its lies really suck  |
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