Me me me me me me it's all about meeeeeeeeee!!!

[Lillie]

 


Song of the Waiting Mother
by Christine Futia

I’m pregnant but my tummy isn’t showing,
And no one ever calls me “little mom”.
My neighbours simply aren’t overflowing
With questions that I’d handle with aplomb.
There are no special clothes to mark my waiting.
Nobody stops and smile as I pass by.
The absence of a due date is frustrating,
And looking at the nursery makes me cry.
When I’m “overdue”, no one will worry.
The phone won’t ring and ring as friends check in.
I can’t induce my labor in a hurry,
My new life as a parent to begin.
Adoption is a wearisome endeavour,
And waiting all alone is not much fun.
To be “with child” a year seems like forever …
Dear God, we’re ready: please send us our son!

[Addie Pray]

I hate that crap. 

[Beth]

Awwwwww ... the poor little dear. Is she not getting enough sympathy and attention?  Privileged twat! 

[Laurel]

She can always console herself by parking in the slot set aside for pregnant mothers like one of these entitled cows did.

[HeatherUK]

She can always console herself by parking in the slot set aside for pregnant mothers like one of these entitled cows did.

Ha!  I would've knocked her head off if she'd taken the last slot when I was carrying my twins.  I was a vicious hormonal cow on account of the ability to walk only short distances with a back support brace 

[DevonChaos]

She can always console herself by parking in the slot set aside for pregnant mothers like one of these entitled cows did.

Ha!  I would've knocked her head off if she'd taken the last slot when I was carrying my twins.  I was a vicious hormonal cow on account of the ability to walk only short distances with a back support brace 

lol, I felt guilty about parking there when I WAS pregnant, because I figured someone with worse problems might make better use of the spot.  Until I was pregnant with my twins who were born at 6.4 and 7.14 pounds each.  I would have accepted a piggy back ride from an elderly person at that point.

That poem is hideous.  I'm suprised the bitch that wrote it doesn't have an attic full of maternity clothes that she wears in private while doing her best bow-backed walk.  Silly bitch.  I feel so bad for kids going into THOSE situations.  My a-mom was like that.  She paraded me around (before she kept me indoors for 6 months because she was afraid I was going to catch something) to EVERYONE she knew.  She didn't let a-dad hold me for days.  Ha!  This is the same bitch who hasn't called me since June, managing to avoid my b-day and telling me WHY she and my dad are getting divorced.

Argh, sorry for hijacking.  Feeling sick and surly this morning.

[inthedark46]

STFU BITCH, Your singing hurts my ears!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

[JennaGoose]

  I would have accepted a piggy back ride from an elderly person at that point.

 

devon, you crack me up.

[DevonChaos]

Just wait til her child gets pregnant or gets someone else pregnant.  My mom hit the fan every time I got knocked up, even after I was financially stable and married.  She demanded I abort every time. 
I don't want to judge the pain of infertility, because I've never been their either, but scary is scary.  And THIS? Is scary.

[kateiskate]

One of my worst fears is becoming one of these freaks because I can't get pregnant.

[Sunny]

And looking at the nursery makes me cry.

Then WHY did you make a NURSERY?!

She is the kind of nut who probably planned her wedding before she even had a boyfriend. 

[DevonChaos]

She is the kind of nut who probably planned her wedding before she even had a boyfriend. 

  oh don't you just know it.

OH SHIT!  Like Monica did on Friends!  "Wedding Scenario 'A'".  Monica was pretty much the poster person for creepy Ap after a while.    
Sad, cuz I liked Friends before.  I even forgave them for the whole surrogacy thing.

[JaneAyer]

Yeah I have to say a woman who acts like she can't survive without having a child to raise isn't well. Need to find a happiness and peace from within, regardless of life circumstances.

I have always been nurturing, motherly, I hoped to become a mom as soon as possible. As each year passed when I reached the age where I could have a child, it seemed like it would never happen, and that was sad, but I wasn't filled with some sort of inconsolable sorrow, longing for a child. It was enough for me to know that I loved children, could make a good mother, and that I got opportunities to be nurutring, motherly, to relatives and other children.

I had a friend and her desire for a child of her own to raise consumed her. She was always full of sorrow and woe, and felt like her life was so incomplete and broken and miserable, because she didn't have a child of her own, she wasn't a mother. She spent tens of thousands on fertility treatments, for years. She lost the first baby due, but she was able to have a second child. I pity that child. Aside from her issues over wanting to have a child, it was very obvious she is mentally ill.

I feel so sad for children who have to grow up with people like this. :(

[Cheerio]

Yeah I have to say a woman who acts like she can't survive without having a child to raise isn't well. Need to find a happiness and peace from within, regardless of life circumstances.

I have always been nurturing, motherly, I hoped to become a mom as soon as possible. As each year passed when I reached the age where I could have a child, it seemed like it would never happen, and that was sad, but I wasn't filled with some sort of inconsolable sorrow, longing for a child. It was enough for me to know that I loved children, could make a good mother, and that I got opportunities to be nurutring, motherly, to relatives and other children.

. . .

wow,
and THAT makes sense
that you're "Ok" with it, because you're still able to love, even if you don't 'own'

[Molly Bloom]

I absolutely don't condone using babies to fulfill a "need".  As one of my Dad's favorite sayings was "The problem with a kitty is that, it grows up to be a cat!"  LOL, can you tell my Dad is not a cat person?  But it's a perfect line for adoption.

I don't think that the desire to adopt as a second choice will ever change in this country.  It's too ingrained in our culture now.  People have built a mystique about it, and the famous publicly display their proud adoptees. No one talks about the aftermath of this business enough.  That's because they have no way of understanding us.  The denial of understanding us would be strong.  If you don't have any basis of understanding, of course you're going to label the adoptee as having anger issues, ungrateful, etc, etc.

I do feel terribly sorry for women that really want to experience motherhood and will never be given that opportunity.  It's a strong pull for many women.  Had I not had my accidental pregnancy at 34, I most certainly would have been strongly considering soon after as I got closer to 40.  I never ever thought that I would live my  entire life without having a child.  To feel this way and never have that would have caused so much grief, and I believe for some it's unbearable.  I personally know some women that were never able to have a child, never adopted, and it colored their world for many many years.  For some it absolutely ruined their marriages.  Of course the husband leaves them and finds someone fertile, rubbing their ex-wives noses in it.  Let's see, I think I personally know 3 with that exact scenario, and a dozen more with variations on that theme.

Just my experience with all of this throughout my life.  It's complicated and so sad for all involved.