All these different adoption groups? Cross-posting? How do you guys keep up? Everyone seems to be able to navigate and jump all over the internet to different sites and blogs and yikes...i can't even remember what I posted on this board let alone try and work other boards. I feel so inept.
I've read this entire thread, most of it. What I wonder, is this....why are aps and paps even on message boards about adoption. Well, maybe I can see why paps are, but aps? What I mean is, we are all on this board because we belong to a collective of individuals who've had their basic human rights violated, and we share identity concerns and emotional problems in all sorts of different forms and to varying degrees. We all recognize adoption as a problem. So, we've come together and that's why this board exists for us. But if adoption is so perfect and wonderful and nothing is wrong with adopting, why are parents of adopted kids hanging out on message boards about adoption? Are they voyeurs? I don't get it? If adoption is not controversial, why are there so many many many boards and supports? If adopting a child creates a nice new normal family undifferent from a blood family, than why is there a need to go on these boards and defend shit? I am confused.
Adoptive families aren't immune from having problems.
Also, they like to spread the joy and gush in the loving aspect of adoption (in their POVs, of course). The more you can celebrate with others who are in the same realm, the better!
